Spreading Holiday Cheer

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A couple of nights ago I took holiday potpouri oranges to each of the neighbors closest to us.  I even gave one to a neighbor we have had issues with. Last night I filled out and mailed our holiday cards.  I feel at this time it is paramount to remember who we are, and what connects us on the most basic levels.  We’ve become so divided with all the horror that is going on right now.  I see it on social media every day.  People reveling in small victories, celebrating hatred with no care to who they’re hurting.   Families harming each other at the voting booth while smiling happily across the holiday table.  When did we stop being human? We all bleed, we all hurt, we all cry, we all get angry, we all want what we want, but most importantly we all LOVE.  I’ve been binge watching sappy Christmas movies on Netflix.  I need to feel good, even if it’s just for a couple of hours.  The hatred and vitriol that dominates the news feeds and social media is really getting to me.  There are good people doing good things, we’re just not hearing about it.  It doesn’t make headlines, generate enough page clicks.  So it’s up to us to spread kindness, and love, and to try to aid healing.  I’m not suggesting we not be woke and vigilant against the countless atrocious inhumanities plaguing our country at the moment, but that we focus on loving, living, healing, and spreading good cheer.  We have to recharge our batteries to fight the good fight.  We have to focus on the good to keep doing the hard work.  Sometimes a little kindness can help us reach across the table to hear and be heard.  We have to be the difference we want to see in others. I wish you all the best holiday whatever you celebrate, and a fabulous new year.  Celebrate LOVE!

That Stupid Turtle Sign Won’t Bring Your Baby Back

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I know this might piss some people off, but it needs to be said.  It is NOT okay to let small children play in the street.  There is a lady that recently moved in to our neighborhood and she lets her toddler children play in the street.  Our street is a very busy street. It runs parallel to the main street that an elementary school is on.  That street has speed mountains so people come down our street instead so they can go faster and avoid the speed bumps. The residential speed limit is 25 mph.  While many, myself included, obey that speed limit, a greater many do not.  This lady also lives near the corner which makes it even more dangerous because a driver has even less time to see and react to the sudden appearance of something in the road.  We also have a lot of contractors that live at that end of the block so there are big vehicles parked all along that area which makes visibility even worse.  One day I came around the corner and had to come to a complete stop because her children were in the middle of the street riding slow moving motorized toys.  She puts this stupid turtle sign out in the street and thinks somehow this means it’s okay to put her children in harms way.  Every time I see that stupid sign I want to run it over.  Streets are for cars not children.  Now I understand that there are locations that don’t offer kids a safe place to play, and I get it. Cities like New York where many homes do not have back yards or front yards. I get it. Cul-de-sacs where there is better visibility and it’s not a through street. I get it.  Dirt roads that don’t have much traffic, I get it.  Older kids who can watch for cars and get out of the way, I get it. Little kids are irrational, and unpredictable, and very likely to run into the street from between parked cars where a driver won’t see them until the very last minute. Our neighborhood has very large back yards and there is literally an enormous park complete with very wide walkways, a large jungle gym play area and even a duck pond where you can feed the ducks, just a block away.   In our city we have tons of very nice parks that are located in almost every neighborhood.  I think our park is the nicest because of the duck pond.  We use to take our children over there often when they were young.  So why would any decent parent choose to put their kids out front in the street where they are very likely to get hit by a car when they have an easily accessible safe alternative? Why!?  The fact is a 25 mph impact can still cause serious injury and even kill depending on the circumstance.  Why would any decent parent even take that risk?! I often enter my street at the other end so I can avoid that area altogether. I don’t want to be the poor driver that through no fault of my own hits one of those kids and has to live with it the rest of my life.  That stupid turtle sign won’t bring your baby back, but good parenting and not allowing small children to play in the street will keep them from getting hit in the first place!?

Things You Can’t Un-hear

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Ire flared and words uttered like poison laced heat seeking missiles pierced her heart,

And she was never the same…

Never the same.

 

Now she knows that if push comes to shove she might quake all alone with a bitter cold biting at her back,

And it isn’t the same…

Isn’t the same.

 

She moves forward in love and gratitude with a little bit more fear… disagreements happen, people make up, life goes on…

But it’s not quite the same…

Not quite the same.

 

©Dani Heart

11/13/2018