The Time is Way Past Due for Bush to Make a Comeback!

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Today I would like to talk about women and hair. I know some of you just clicked off and went screaming for the hills… whatever! In all seriousness though, it’s a conversation that needs to be had.  When did the women in our society become all but hairless and why?  Even some men are shaving their arms and legs and nether regions. I find it not only weird but disturbing.

I remember well the slick marketing of pretty pastel shavers that promised being hair free would make me more desirable, more feminine, I was 12. It was all the rage!  Images of hairless silky (touchable) skin were everywhere.  I was too young to process the insidious message that in order to be desirable and touchable that I needed to alter myself into something that I wasn’t naturally, or that those that would have me do so, were not people I would want to be desiring and touching me in the first place.   No that would come later, much much later after all the conditioning had set in and done its damage.

It was a coming of age thing for me and my friends. I remember fondly being away at summer camp the first time I shaved my legs with the other girls and what a thrill that was. I felt so girly, so grown up.   I remember with less fondness the ingrown hairs, rashes, stinging, and nicks and cuts that were inevitable in the coming months as I perfected the art of shaving.  I didn’t understand what a chore shaving would become.  If someone had told me then that I would one day participate in the insane process of pouring hot wax on my legs in order to then rip said undesirable hair from it’s very follicles, I am quite certain I would have laughed.  I guess the jokes on me.  I have very fine hair and when I did decide to wax it failed to remove all of the leg hair and I had to shave anyway. Sighs… shakes head…giggles a little at the irony.

I certainly did not understand the stigma I would face by daring to enter a public domain visibly unshaven.  Have you ever gone to get a pedicure with unshaven legs (the horror)! I’m not kidding…the ladies look at you barely able to mask their complete disgust. They will vehemently encourage an immediate wax, not just because it’s a sale, but because they truly are ashamed for you and they think they are doing you a favor.

I recall with photographic memory the first time I saw a woman in a nude love scene with armpit hair.  The shock nearly killed me. I think I was 15, but I was already so conditioned that hair on a woman was socially unacceptable that seeing it horrified me. Now it makes me angry!  When did femininity become synonymous with hairlessness? Yes I know that’s not a word..but it should be, and I’m on a roll so I’m choosing to use it anyway.  Don’t even get me started on waxing and shaving women’s hoohas. Now that’s total insanity.  I once had a guy tell me and I quote ” I don’t like a lot of hair”.  I said well I don’t mind if you want to shave yourself. He said  “no… I don’t like a lot of hair on women down there”.  I will refrain here from recounting the vitriol I spewed at him.  Suffice it to say that hook up never happened!  Wtf!?  His sense of entitlement to tell me what I should do with my private area in order to please him was not only astounding but appalling, and sadly, not uncommon.

Even in period shows where women clearly would not have been hairless they are appearing hairless on our tv screens (Game of Thrones)  History being misrepresented is nothing new, but it is interesting if not somewhat alarming that even authenticity doesn’t stand up to society’s  hair-free demands.   The swords, wardrobe, and decor must match the period but our female characters can have prepubescent shaved hoohas because we are pandering to our male audience! 

The bottom infuriating line is that women are taught from the time they are very small to alter themselves in various ways in order to be desired, loved and cherished by men. Men are not brought up with these same values in regards to women.  Society’s standards for women reinforce the narrative that our value is still largely based on our looks and on whether or not we are desired by the opposite sex.  Case in point… there has been wild speculation on whether or not Hillary Clinton will make a 2016 presidential run.  Let me tell you why I think she will.  She just had a face-lift.  Sadly, despite her education, her political service record, she, like all female candidates, must still meet the public demand to be aesthetically palatable.

Not to get off point here… and back to hair and women…

I still do not like armpit hair on women, and truly I am not that fond of leg hair either, however, I am doing my level best to get over it!  I am attempting to get over the conditioning that is still so prevalent today.  It is difficult to erase images of beauty that have plagued you all your life and replace those images with natural beauty especially when it is so hard to find and view.   In an act of rebellion I have decided to let my hair grow.  I am refusing society’s definition of beauty in favor of being naturally authentic.  I may give in at some point and shave.  There are other aesthetic things I am not willing to give up.  If I do though, it will be my choice, not because I had to meet someone else’s standard of what is acceptable.  There is nothing wrong with us at birth.  Our bodies are designed to look and work just exactly how they are supposed to.  There is something wrong with a society that conditions us to be otherwise in order to be desired, loved, and accepted. 

16 thoughts on “The Time is Way Past Due for Bush to Make a Comeback!

  1. I agree with what you’ve said above about being conditioned to hate body hair. I also have an aversion to armpit hair; leg hair, less so. I must admit, I do love the feeling of my own legs when they are freshly shaved, but I shouldn’t be ashamed when they aren’t.

    Also, I laughed at the part about nail techs looking at you crazy when you have unshaven legs. It’s so true!

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  2. If my hubs or sons complain that it takes me too long to shower, I shoot back with, “Well, do you have to shave your legs?” Then I run off a litany of all the other things women must do to fit society’s standards, and I remind them that I’m actually low maintenance. Whereas I can get fully ready in 20-25 minutes, some women require an hour or more. By this point in my rant, they’ve left the room, but I hope they get my point. We are expected to conform to preset standards, and we often do it without questioning. There are some women who even wax their arms to get rid of their dark arm hair. Who needs that?

    So good for you for questioning. But I’ll still shave my legs. Maybe by the time I’m 80 I’ll have finally earned the right to become Chewbacca. 😉

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  3. I must admit that laziness has helped me sort of, kind of, cross the line into hairiness.
    I still feel “dressed up” when I decide to shave with a two month old razor and pluck the dark hair from my mole…

    But seriously, whose idea was this BS!?
    I could be baking cookies or knitting with that time. Just kidding…I’d be internetting.

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  4. Isabella I’m with you sister! I can’t believe how many women are willing to shave their hoohas… eeeek! Wanda Sykes does a very funny comedic bit about getting her hooha waxed. Just NO! LOL

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  5. cindy

    Wow what an interesting topic. I hate having to shave but I do because I hate having hair all over. Well almost all over. Hair in dome areas other than our heads is better than being hairless/shaved in my opinion. Great share Dani!

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  6. Melody J Haislip

    I will defend to the death your right to be as hairy as you please, but personally, I’m not so much into hairy pits or hairless hoohas (that would make an excellent name for a musical group, doncha think?). Hairless hoohas are for little girls and, apparently, porn films (not that I’ve ever seen any).

    If you want to get historical (or hysterical), even in my all-time favorite book, “Outlander”, circa mid-1700s, there is a scene about shaving, when Claire and Jamie are in France, so this is not a new debate.

    So you go girl, be as hairy as you can be, just don’t expect me to tickle you under your arms! 🙂

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  7. Melody that would be a fun name for a musical group. I don’t personally like pit hair and leg hair not so much either, but I think it is because I have been conditioned to feel that way. But totally agree about the hooha. When I see shaved hoohas on tv.. I always think how unnatural and infantile that appears. ewww. LOL Always good to see you here sweet Melody. 🙂

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  8. O.M.G. I haven’t seen a Flicker in at least 20 years!!!! Boy, that brought back memories.

    About the hair issue, I agree with you wholeheartedly. I mean, many European women hate shaving (and some hate showering too, but that’s another issue) and no one gives a damn, whereas on the other side of the ocean, just the thought of bodily hair makes us cringe…and yet, guess who is happier and has no problem with her self-image?

    I’ve been waxing everything since I was about 18 and have never failed to do so every month since then. But I know it has more to do with the way I was raised and the fact that I was taught that hairy armpits or legs just look nasty, which is why I’m desperately trying not to fill my 8-year old daughter’s head with these silly ideas and trying to let her build her own self image as she will, without her getting fooled by any of these preconceived notions I grew up with…

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  9. That is brave of you invisible hand to not raise your daughter with those notions. I mean society will fill her head with them soon enough anyway. Good for you. In the end we have to do what is comfortable for us… 🙂 Thank you so much for reading and commenting.

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  10. I let my arms and legs grow out when I was travelling earlier this year and I felt somehow sexier and more me. But I shaved it all off before I got home, worries about what close friends and family would think, not that I should be worried, but people carry on about women’s armpit hair as though it is the most digusting thing in the world. I’m going traveling again next year and going to stop shaving again

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