Things You Can’t Un-hear

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Ire flared and words uttered like poison laced heat seeking missiles pierced her heart,

And she was never the same…

Never the same.

 

Now she knows that if push comes to shove she might quake all alone with a bitter cold biting at her back,

And it isn’t the same…

Isn’t the same.

 

She moves forward in love and gratitude with a little bit more fear… disagreements happen, people make up, life goes on…

But it’s not quite the same…

Not quite the same.

 

©Dani Heart

11/13/2018

 

As I Am

I have long rued the double standard that exists between men and women in the work place. The difference in what is required appearance wise is particularly upsetting to me. Requiring women to wear make-up just to be acceptable when men are acceptable as they are is most egregious. Even though it is not a stated requirement today, if you show up to an interview au natural you are not likely to get the job, depending on what the job is. What does that say about our society, certainly nothing good. As an experiment when I was looking for work I started to interview without make-up. I decided that I didn’t really want a job where I had to wear make up every day.  So except for a light foundation on days that my complexion needed evening out, I went au natural. I was pleasantly surprised that sometimes it didn’t seem to make a difference. Long story short, I have had several jobs now where I was not required to wear make-up. When I first entered the work force decades ago I’m certain that would not have been possible. I see it more and more now and it makes me so happy.  Today at my credit union I was assisted by my favorite teller. She is bubbly and sweet, and almost always au natural. Today I told her that I love that she chooses not to wear make-up, because I like natural beauty. She radiated glee while wishing me a great rest of my day. Baby steps are not light speed but change, however slow, is still progress. I look forward to the day when women are considered beautiful without modification, to the day when we are paid equally for the same work as men. We have made progress, but we’re still not there. Considering the current political climate and the erosion of some hard won rights, we must remain vigilant, for there is so much work left to do.

Living in the Moment

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The absence of time against my pulsing

wrist is so curious to me…

 

Though nearly a year has passed the

delineations that mark its vacancy are

present still.

 

At first it was my plan to replace the

savvy trinket that has long fostered

the illusion of control over the hours passing…

 

But…life happened… as often it does, and I have

found myself instead re-defining my relationship

with time

 

©Dani Heart

4/28/2018