Not Severe Enough

There exists a form of discrimination that receives almost no attention and even less awareness.  When we see a person in a wheel chair, or a person with down syndrome (most of us know what that looks like), or a deaf person signing, just to name a few, their disability is obvious.  We afford them certain courtesies due to their inabilities.  In essence, we pick up the slack, if there is slack, and we are happy to do so.  This is not the case for disabilities or illnesses that are NOT obvious, and there are too many to count.  Unseen disabilities that plague people are probably more common than the obvious ones, and yet, for those who appear fully capable we tend to not be  compassionate and understanding as to what they may or may not be dealing with.  I deal with physical issues due to brain damage  that no one can see, and sometimes I react strangely to otherwise normal circumstances due to those issues.  I didn’t ask to be afflicted by these things just as no one asks to have depression, or fibromayalgia (which some people think is a made up affliction to milk the system), or lupus  or Anemia or any kind of disease or abnormality that anyone deals with.  The things I deal with are extreme but NOT obvious.  I am not normal. I will never be normal, and I have accepted this, but because I appear normal society expects me to be normal.  My point is this, and this is what I take away from my own crap that I deal with… you never do know what someone is dealing with just by looking at them. Many of us deal with things that no one can see. So I think compassion for others is always good policy.   Hell why not do a random act of kindness and just sometimes pick up the slack, afford some courtesies even when there is no obvious reason to do so. Instead of possibly being someone’s last straw, you could be the reason they hang on.

8 thoughts on “Not Severe Enough

  1. Like you, I believe there is a wide spectrum for autism, and some may lie on the margins and never get recognized or diagnosed with the condition. Whether or not that is you, I wish you well as you face your challenges.

    Thank you for stopping by my blog. I appreciate it. 🙂


  2. Anya

    Dani, I did my master’s degree in rehabilitation counseling, and I remember sitting in one of my classes talking specifically about invisible disabilities. Our program was one of the first in the country to place an emphasis on TBI rehabilitation. Thanks for speaking up about your side. 🙂


  3. I am too actually. Thanks for the advice. I just needed to edit it because originally I shared in detail some of my issues but it just didn’t come out right. So I decided not to elaborate but just state that their are issues and I liked it much better. 🙂 You are the sweetest Jen. 🙂


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